Narcissism Through the Lens of IFS Therapy: Compassion and Connection
When we hear the word “narcissism,” many of us picture someone who is self-absorbed, arrogant, or manipulative. Narcissistic behaviour can indeed look like that on the surface, but when we dig deeper—especially from the perspective of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy—we begin to see a more complex story. IFS provides a compassionate framework to understand narcissism, and it also offers tools that friends and family can use to support healthier relationships with those who show narcissistic behaviours.
Complex PTSD: A Helpful Guide for Friends and Family
When someone close to you is living with Complex PTSD (C-PTSD), it can be difficult to fully understand what they're going through. In this article, we’ll break down what Complex PTSD is, how it impacts those who have it, and share some ways to support loved ones who may be living with this condition. Whether you're a friend, family member, or partner, approaching C-PTSD with compassion, patience, and understanding can make a world of difference.
Understanding the Difference Between Empathy and Compassion
Ever found yourself completely drained after trying to help someone through a tough time? You were just trying to be a good friend, but somehow their stress became your stress. It’s almost as if their anxiety jumped ship and landed squarely on your shoulders. Well, congratulations! You might have been caught in the empathy trap. But don’t worry—there’s a way out, and it’s called compassion.
Creative Journaling Ideas to Improve Mental Wellness
Journaling is an amazing way to organize those swirling thoughts and make sense of them. It’s like having your own personal therapist in a notebook! So, let’s dive into some creative journaling ideas that not only help reduce stress but can also support healing from trauma and boost your overall mental wellness. Grab your favorite pen and a cozy drink—let’s get started!
Overcoming Depression: Drug-Free Techniques That Work
While medication can be a vital tool for many, some people prefer to explore drug-free alternatives either alongside or instead of pharmaceutical options. This article dives into 10 practical, everyday strategies that can help lift the fog of depression and bring more balance and joy back into your life.
How to Help Someone Struggling with their Mental Health (Part 3)
To provide emotional comfort effectively, we must first ensure that the person feels their emotions are safe and validated. Once their emotional response is validated, they can receive the comfort or assistance we offer. In this article, we are going to be integrating all the things we’ve explored up till now using “VCR” and some practical support options, as well as the power of prayer.
How to Help Someone Struggling with their Mental Health (Part 2)
We don’t need to be professional therapists or counsellors to help our friends and family struggling with their mental health. There are practical things we can do to communicate better and offer necessary emotional support. In this article, we are going to look at some tips for listening, staying grounded, and reflecting emotion.
How to Help Someone Struggling with their Mental Health (Part 1)
When we see someone struggling with their mental health, it's natural to want to help, but we often don't know how to begin. While therapy should be handled by trained professionals, there are still ways we can support our friends and family in distress. In this article, we'll focus on understanding our motivations for helping and recognizing our limits.
Getting Back on Your Feet When You Feel “Stuck”
Have you ever faced a significant event that left you feeling paralyzed, unable to move forward? These events or experiences can hit us hard, leaving us feeling overwhelmed, confused, and deeply depressed. If you're feeling “stuck,” know that you’re not alone. Life is a journey filled with twists and turns, and encountering the unexpected is part of the process.
How to Develop Self-Leadership
Do you ever find yourself setting goals and then not achieving them? Maybe you start projects, but never finish them? Or perhaps you struggle to get started in the first place? Developing self-leadership is a journey that empowers you to take control of your thoughts, emotions, and actions, leading to greater personal and professional success. In this blog post, we look at what self-leadership is and how you can improve on this important skill.
What does it mean to “guard your heart?”
“I learned that it's important to stay connected with supportive people, especially during tough times, and to find better ways to handle difficult situations without shutting myself off from the world.”
The Best Tool for Couples Struggling with Conflict
As couples begin to navigate difficult conversations in the therapy office, they gradually realize it is much harder to do the same at home. Although clients and I have joked about this in the past… I cannot (nor do I want to) go to your home to remind you and your partner to “slow down” when trying to communicate.
In place of this obviously uncomfortable situation, I offer couples one of my favourite relationship tools: the Feelings Wheel.
Should I Try Sozo?
Sozo? Never heard of it…
We’re often skeptical of things that seem both new and unknown—but Sozo is neither of those things. It has helped many people over many years, and we are thrilled to be able to offer it to you!
Communicating Emotions in Relationships
Communicating emotions in relationships requires self-awareness, empathy, vulnerability, and a continual commitment from both partners. These skills are foundational for building trust, understanding, and intimacy in your relationships. By recognizing, expressing, and empathizing with each other's emotions, couples can deepen their bond and create a foundation that sustains their relationship through the challenges of life.
Why Do We Resist Rest?
It’s a beautiful Saturday morning here in the MacEwen house. I’m enjoying breakfast and coffee with my wife, laughing about the crazy dreams we had last night and talking about our wonderful dreams for the day ahead.
And then… my phone rings.
Everyday, our society is becoming more and more burnt out and evidently craving rest—yet we still struggle to embrace opportunities for rest when they are presented to us.
Is “Sabbath” Just a Religious Rule?
I know what you’re thinking. You probably haven’t even heard the word “sabbath” since your Sunday school teacher taught you about the Ten Commandments. But maybe that is exactly the problem. Many of us haven’t thought about the Sabbath (let alone kept it “holy”) since grade school. It is like we think, at some point in world history, the practice of sabbath stopped being important.
Impact of Positive Relationships on Health
Relationships are a huge part of our daily lives. It is impossible to live in complete isolation from other people. In fact, much of the research suggests our health depends on these social connections. In this week’s blog post, I share some highlights from the research on how relationships impact all areas of our health: psychological, physical, and even spiritual health.
Am I a “Christian Counsellor?”
For the most part, I’m an open book and feel comfortable sharing my thoughts and life experiences. But when it came to writing a blog post discussing my faith and spirituality, this gave me pause—not because I’m uncertain of my convictions, but because of the legacy and reputation attached to the terms “Christian” and “Christian counselling.”
I’ll be as clear as possible about what I believe and what I mean when I use the term “Christian counsellor” …
How Do I Get My Teenager to “Like” Me? (Part 2)
Parenting teenagers can be a tricky task, but also incredibly rewarding. In the previous article, we looked at two things parents of teenagers need to stop doing. In this post, we’ll focus on two things they need to start doing: start paying attention & start letting go.
It might not be an easy transition for you to make, but I’m confident that this change will significantly improve the health and wellbeing of your whole family…
How Do I Get My Teenager to “Like” Me? (Part 1)
Parenting teenagers is a wild ride… and I’m confident in saying that even the best parents have their communication and relationship skills stretched to max capacity when their kids hit the teen years.
Thankfully, it’s not all bad, and there is lots you can do to make these years enjoyable for both you and your child…